The window of tolerance

Reviewed by Anne Grisham-Pleas, MC, LMHC, SUDP — trauma, EMDR, and substance use specialist with 20+ years of experience

According to Dan Siegal (1999) and Pat Ogden et all (2006), The Window of Tolerance refers to the “zone you can be in when your emotions are balanced and controlled, and you are thinking clearly and rationally.”

Being outside The Window of Tolerance results in some clients being hyper-aroused and some to become hypo-aroused. Siegal and Ogden describe symptoms of chronic hyper-arousal as “feeling emotionally overwhelmed, panic, impulsivity, hyper-vigilance, defensiveness, feeling unsafe, reactive, angry and racing thoughts.” For clients who have a trauma history, regulating their emotions and remaining in the present can be quite challenging.

Siegal and Ogden describe symptoms of chronic hypo-arousal as “numb, ‘dead’, passive, no feelings, no energy, can’t think, disconnected, shut down ‘not there’ ashamed and can’t say no.” These symptoms can lead to clients to collapse and at times to dissociate.

Man sitting peacefully in meditation near a window
Mental health chart illustrating anxiety symptoms over time

Clients with a trauma history can respond outside their Window of Tolerance with minor distress, traumatic memories, daily stressors, challenging emotions and real or perceived threats to their safety.

Teaching a variety of grounding skills and mindfulness can support clients to expand their Window of Tolerance. Some clients benefit from creating a peaceful place, using a container for challenging emotions. Others benefit from tapping and the butterfly hug and some prefer grounding themselves in the room with warm water or tea. Diaphragmatic or square breathing exercises as well walking, yoga and music are also helpful for some clients.

Reviewed by Anne Grisham-Pleas, MC, LMHC, SUDP

Anne Grisham-Pleas, MC, LMHC, SUDP, is a licensed mental health counselor and substance use disorder professional specializing in trauma, EMDR, substance use, anxiety, depression, and codependency. She has more than 20 years of hands-on experience supporting sustained recovery from substance use disorders.

Her integrative approach includes EMDR, CBT, motivational interviewing, mindfulness-based, trauma-focused, attachment-based, and solution-focused therapies.

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