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When childhood bullying shapes the way you see yourself as an adult

Reviewed by Anne Grisham-Pleas, MC, LMHC, SUDP — trauma, EMDR, and substance use specialist with 20+ years of experience Childhood bullying can change the way you learn to take up space in the world. Long after the bullying ends, you are still reading the room carefully, watching for shifts in

Woman sitting alone outdoors reflecting on healing from people-pleasing and codependency through EMDR therapy

How EMDR can help you break free from people-pleasing

You know the pattern, even when you wish you could stop repeating it. You say yes when you want to say no. You worry about disappointing people, sense what others need before they ask, and put yourself aside so quickly that you barely notice it happening. Then later, when the

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Codependency traits that keep you stuck in unhealthy relationships

You keep telling yourself things will get better. Maybe if you communicate more clearly. Maybe if you try harder. Maybe if you become more patient, more understanding, or less demanding.

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When Trauma Leads to Substance Use

Reviewed by Anne Grisham-Pleas, MC, LMHC, SUDP — trauma, EMDR, and substance use specialist with 20+ years of experience Many people who struggle with substance use don’t start out trying to escape their lives; they’re trying to survive their bodies. Alcohol, drugs, or prescription medications can temporarily quiet anxiety, numb

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How EMDR Works: A Step-by-Step Guide for Trauma Recovery

Reviewed by Anne Grisham-Pleas, MC, LMHC, SUDP — trauma, EMDR, and substance use specialist with 20+ years of experience If you’ve heard people describe EMDR as “moving your eyes back and forth and somehow feeling better,” you’re not alone. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) can sound mysterious from the

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The quiet weight of self-neglect

Reviewed by Anne Grisham-Pleas, MC, LMHC, SUDP — trauma, EMDR, and substance use specialist with 20+ years of experience Self-neglect rarely announces itself with dramatic warning signs. Instead, it usually arrives quietly, subtly. At first, it might look like skipping a meal here and there, brushing aside your need for